The Love-Yourself Dilemma
I am being prodded by New Age love-yourselfers on one side and by my own too-pragmatic long-established self critic on the other. I have been bombarded lately by messages to be “gentle with myself” and to “love myself exactly as I am.” Now my question: how on earth do we address shortcomings and correct faults if we love them exactly as they are? Am I missing something here? It seems a little bit of self-loathing goes a long way if you want to get yourself off your ass and do something you’ve been neglecting. On the other hand, I can see that it would be very soothing to feel good about one’s self all the time. It would contribute greatly to inner peace. But is that just complacency? I wonder… to love or not to love is really the final question.